Archive | December, 2010

Resolutions

29 Dec

I have been a practicing Buddhist for several years now, which basically means I meditate. I try to do it every day but sometimes I go for weeks without sitting. Sometimes I try to clear my mind, as it were, and sometimes I try to concentrate on a particular problem or issue, to find the root of it. Sometimes I simply follow my breath, sometimes I let my mind wander just to see where it goes.

I sat this morning for the first time in a little while, and found myself feeling pangs of doubt. What was I doing this for again? What was my goal? Did I really believe that I would one day experience satori – a flash of enlightenment – and live out the remainder of my days as a bodhisattva? Is it any more realistic for me to expect such a thing than it is for a Christian to wait for the return of Christ?

It seems appropriate, at this time of year when we are making resolutions with our fingers crossed behind our backs, to think about the concepts of progress and planning. For those who don’t know much about Buddhism, it is essentially a philosophy of empiricism. There are no articles of faith; when asked if there was a god, Buddha remained silent, because there was no empirical proof one way or the other.

Nor is there dogma in Buddhism. There are multiple interpretations of Buddha’s teachings, but no one goes to war over them. There are rules, especially for the clergy, but the rules are framed as precepts that guide us to choosing the right action in any given situation, which in turn leads to good karma – the best possible outcome of our choices.

Given the importance of karma in Buddhism, one might expect us to constantly be looking ahead as if we were chess players, always evaluating the “game” and making adjustments; but in truth, we are constantly admonished to be “present” or “mindful” of what is happening here and now, not dwelling on the past or the future. Now is all that matters.

This seems hard to reconcile with the Western mindset (or for that matter the modern Eastern one), where we are admonished by experts for not saving enough, not planning for the future enough. But in truth, the experts are simply trying to awaken us to the choices we make now. Eat well and exercise now to avoid cancer later. Control your debt now to avoid bankruptcy later. Concentrate on your studies now to have a good job later.

If we’re not careful, these resolutions can seem like impossible dreams, and so we might give up on them before we even start. We don’t like to defer pleasure. We want to be rewarded, or at least comforted, now. Of course, the comfort we feel can be an illusion, or at least very temporary, and we find ourselves needing another “hit” of pleasure before we can start taking those actions that will create our new, happier future. Another blog entry, tweet, hour of gaming, comic, orgasm, whatever.

I think that sometimes we feel, deep down, the way that an addict feels when they can’t stop themselves from taking another drink or doing another line. We stand outside of ourselves and watch it happen, feeling powerless, disassociating ourselves from that stranger who is wasting his life. We might try to trick ourselves into new behaviours – if I run every day this week, I can have cheesecake on Sunday! – only to find after a while, the bribe no longer works. It’s not enough, or it isn’t fun, or some other “obstacle” has appeared.

The problem with focusing on the future is that the future is intimidating. No matter how strong our resolve at the moment, no matter how good our intentions, the future is like a sheer cliff face and we are standing at the bottom with no climbing gear except our bare hands.

The present, on the other hand, is easy to live in. As the old soap commercials used to say, you’re soaking in it. Snap your fingers: there goes another moment of the now, and you lived through it without any negative outcome. This is why meditators are told to follow their breath: to have the experience, even if it’s only for a few minutes a day, or week, or lifetime, of simply living.

2010 Films in Review

26 Dec

For the first time in quite a while, I did not make it to a lot of films at the theatre, and so this list includes those which I downloaded and/or watched on DVD after their release. As is often the case, I have not had a chance to catch many of the released-just-in-time-for-Oscar-nominations choices that most critics will cite, like True Grit, Black Swan, The King’s Speech and so on.

So, let’s start with the films I saw last year that aren’t on either the best or worst lists, in no particular order:

The Girl With The Dragon Tattoo – overlong but feisty adaptation of the late Stieg Larsson’s thriller
Jonah Hex – unspectacular adaptation of a DC franchise that I never dreamed would wind up on the big screen
Step Up 3D – one of the few occasions I can think of where the 3D is actually welcome
The Losers – what the A-Team film probably should have been
The Crazies – humorless remake of the Romero film about a town quarantined due to exposure to a chemical weapon
The Runaways – tries hard to tell the story of the proto-punk girl group but falls flat much of the time
A Nightmare on Elm Street (2010) – another humorless remake; Jackie Earl Haley is well cast as Freddy
MacGruber – lots of laughs in this Will Forte vehicle; well above average for an SNL film but not top 10 material
Diary of a Wimpy Kid – reasonably smart kids’ fare
Gunless – Paul Gross’ Canadian spin on a Western; nice score by Blue Rodeo’s Greg Keelor
The Tooth Fairy – Stephen Merchant is hilarious as The Rock’s mentor
Cemetery Junction – Stephen Merchant again, writing with Ricky Gervais about three young people trying to get out of a stifling English village.

And now, the ten worst films of 2010:

10. Hot Tub Time Machine – cute idea, I guess, but overlong and doesn’t hit the mark it aims for; which is sad, considering how low that mark is
9. Robin Hood – drab retelling of the archer’s myth featuring Russell Crowe
8. Iron Man 2 – adequate sequel that doesn’t capture the energy of the original
7. The Town – overpraised heist drama with plot holes that could swallow Bawston
6. Machete – amusing waste of time by Robert Rodriguez
5. Skyline – bizarre, sometimes repulsive alien invasion film that combines The Matrix with Cloverfield
4. Eclipse – the worst film in the Twilight series, adapting the worst of the books
3. The Sorcerer’s Apprentice – laughable and lame Nicolas Cage cheque-casher
2. Cats & Dogs 2 – awful Bond ripoff, supposedly for young humans, in truth not suitable for anyone including pets
1. The Expendables – leering, self-congratulatory “action” film starring a Frankenstein copy of Stallone and an embarrassed supporting cast.

And finally, the top 10:

10. Kick-Ass – audacious and refreshingly adult superhero film
9. Toy Story 3 – limps to the finish but completes a trilogy nicely
8. Salt – surprisingly effective and fresh action starring Angelina Jolie
7. Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows Part 1 – strong and well constructed setup for the final act of an uneven franchise
6. Easy A – smart comedy from the great Will Gluck (The Loop, Fired Up) and Emma Stone
5. Exit Through The Gift Shop – unique documentary by Banksy about street art, pop art, and the pretenders who both make it and buy it
4. Tangled – the best animation to come from Disney in years, very smart and funny and well written, including the songs
3. Inception – brilliant variation on a theme by Christopher Nolan, the surest hand in American film since Steven Soderbergh
2. Scott Pilgrim Vs. The World – Edgar Wright’s energetic mixture of video games, film geekery, comics and love stories, adapting the equally lovable graphic novel series
1. The American – very impressive drama about a specialist’s last job, directed by photographer Anton Corbin and starring George Clooney.

The American

Not a bad year, if you are willing to look. I hope this list helps you find something you like!

And so this is Christmas

24 Dec

I was reflecting today on what a year it has been. A crazy but generally great year. I managed to keep myself sheltered and fed during a very tricky time after a “challenging” ex-employer dropped me to save some money and stiffed me for $4000. I am now happy to be working full time for a large local employer.

I did a lot of traveling to Toronto to see Nicole, helped her move back to NB for a year off from grad school, and asked her to marry me a couple of months ago. We adopted a pair of adorable kittens and named them Peanut Butter and Rain. We are very much in love and I am grateful for her every day.

My achievements in other areas of interest – running, Buddhism, making comics, and so on – have waxed and waned, but overall I am satisfied with their progress, and hope to do more next year, until those activities become a normal part of life rather than something I must remind myself to do.

Of course it is hard to think of Christmas without thinking of my beautiful boy, Jack, who at 8 is still very much in the zone of being excited for waking up and tearing open presents and so on. He lost his uncle this year, a man not much older than I. After my own near-miss last year I am always mindful of my good fortune and how blessed I am to have Jack, and the life that I continue to build upon.

However you celebrate them, I hope that your holidays are joyous and that your new year makes all previous years pale in comparison.

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